A Waste of Time

This is another one of the conversations, like this one here , which might strain credulity but is actually mostly verbatim bits of a real conversations.  The question about him watching porn might seem random, I’m not sure, but the reason is that I’ve seen people like him identify as bisexual without any apparent sexual interest in both sexes.  Which isn’t to say all bisexuals are like that, but I think your actual sexual inclinations are a good indicator one way or another of your actual sexuality, as opposed to a label you’re using.  I’ve had emotional attachments to girls, and even thought girls were cute, and on some of those occasions I’ve wondered, hey, maybe I’m bi.  But I’m not, because I have no interest in seeing girls naked whatsoever, and seeing porn with women in it is a completely non-sexual experience for me.

In the case of this particular boy, when I met him it didn’t even occur to me to ask whether or not he was gay.  It didn’t even occur to me to ask whether he was a top or a bottom.  It’s not that he was acting in some flaming stereotypical way, it’s just that based on my experience his sexuality was pretty readily apparent.  He has, since we dated, “come out” as fully gay, as opposed to bi, which I take as an affirmation of my instincts.  So, it’s not that I’m incredulous of bisexuals in general, I’m just incredulous of the ones that don’t happen to be bisexual.